Balancing The Cognitive/Emotional Load of Life

When I first started doing couples therapy, I would strike a nerve with the assertion that you shouldn't say "thank you" for tasks done around the house. I see that as indication that someone has done you a favor. I'm guessing everyone in your relationship is an adult and is responsible for their home and its upkeep.

That doesn't mean I don't encourage recognition. "That looks great!" "I'm guessing the kid's tub was a beast with all the toys in it!" "This dinner is amazing!" You get my point. "Thank you" means you took something off my plate. Now if I said I was going to wash the floor and you got to it first, yes, that's a 'thank you' moment. You did do me a favor.

Here comes Eve Rodsky https://www.everodsky.com/fair-play and her Fair Play card deck. It is a great tool. I encourage slightly different playing suggestions, so I finally got around to putting together an infographic. Let me know what you think!