If you or your spouse are considering divorce but aren't sure it's the right decision, Discernment Counseling can help you find clarity and determine your next steps.

 

This approach is designed for couples where one partner is leaning out of the relationship while the other is leaning in and hoping to repair the marriage.

 

My role is to help you explore three possible paths: working toward a healthier marriage, moving toward divorce, or taking more time to decide. Should you choose to work on the marriage, I will connect you with a good couples therapist if you'd like. I do not keep discernment couples for therapy as a policy.

 

The goal isn't to solve your marital problems, but to determine whether they are solvable.

 

Through compassionate, honest conversations, we'll explore your relationship, each person's contributions to its challenges, and what would need to change for the marriage to thrive. Both partners' perspectives are respected, and neither person is blamed.

 

Although you attend as a couple, much of the work happens in individual conversations with me, allowing each of you to explore your feelings and options openly.

 

Number of sessions:

 

Up to five sessions. The first session is typically two hours, with subsequent sessions lasting 1.5–2 hours.

 

 

Discernment Counseling is not appropriate when:

One spouse has made a final decision to divorce.

One spouse is coercing the other to participate.

There is a risk of domestic violence.

 

The goal is to help you move forward with greater clarity and confidence, whatever direction you choose.